Love and Logic Days #22, 23, & 24

Day 22

"Highly skilled teachers get kids to attempt difficult things. Then, this wonderful transfer effect takes place and the kid says, 'I wonder what ELSE I can do!'"

Love your kids? Remember to let your face know

"I'll know you are ready for ______ when you are being really responsible in other areas."

"Kids learn better from mistakes when we stay quiet and let the consequence be the 'bad guy'."

When we set limits for kids, they can get angry for a while.
When we DON"T set limits for kids, they can stay angry for a lifetime.

"I am my kids' leader - NOT their unlimited service provider."

"Love and Logic techniques help me figure out what I CAN control instead of what I WISH I could control."

"This year, I will spend more time playing WITH my kids than shopping for them."

Day 23

"When I feel like yelling, I'm going to whisper."

 

"I cannot make the roads perfectly smooth for my kids.
But, I CAN prepare them to handle rough roads."

"I love you enough to set limits and tell you 'no'."

"I have learned that a small change in MY behavior can make a big difference."

[Parent asks child who has caused a problem]:"What do you think you need to do?"
[Child responds]: "Say sorry?"
[Adult responds]: "That's a great START."
[Child gets the gift of thinking about some logical solutions].

"Slow down... enjoy... and remember what it's all about."

Day 24

Pampered children seldom grow up to lead happy lives.

Parents who pamper their children steal away their child’s ability to achieve through struggle.

Never allow children to make decisions that affect others.

Never allow children to make a decision unless you are willing o allow them to live with the consequences of that decision.

Love and Logic Day #21

Day 21

 

No parent should put up with bad behavior. Allowing kids to misbehave is very damaging to them. They think they are incapable of controlling themselves.

Children whose parents provide no limits or controls become very insecure. 

Just because a child cries or has a fit doesn’t mean that parents are wrong or needs to give in.

No rewards come to parents who are not willing to pay the price.  Stand firm in the consequences of your child’s actions that you have given.

It is never too late to change a behavior pattern.

Make your words Gold not Garbage.

Never tell a child to do something unless you intend to follow through.

When child refuses to obey, take them by the hand to another location, lower your voice and tell them that that is enough, and what you expect them to do.  Then say, do you think it would be wise for you to continue acting that way?  Get back in there and show me that you can behave.  Thank you!

When you can’t think of a consequence for their behavior right away, tell them you’ll let them know later what you are going to do about it.

Always follow through with the consequences you set forth. 

No-Bake Blueberry Cheesecake

8 oz. Fat Free cream cheese
1 cup confectioners sugar
1 tsp. vanilla
8 oz. Fat Free cool whip
10 oz. blueberry pie filling
Low Fat Graham Cracker Crust

Beat together cream cheese, sugar & vanilla.
Fold in cool whip.
Spoon filling into prepared pie crust.
Spread blueberry topping on top.
Refrigerate for 2 hours or until chilled.

http://delicious-pie.tumblr.com/post/53363244107/nobake-blueberry-cheesecake-8-oz-cream-cheese-1-cup

Apple Cider Baked Donuts

Ingredients:
For the Apple Cider Baked Donuts:
1 cup and 2 tablespoons unbleached all-purpose flour
1-1/2 teaspoons baking powder
2 teaspoons ground cinnamon
1 large egg,  at room temperature
1/2 cup fresh apple cider
1/2 cup sugar
1/2 teaspoon apple cider vinegar
1 teaspoon pure vanilla extract
4 tablespoons Fat Free vanilla chobani yogurt or unsalted butter
For the Maple Glaze:
1-1/4 cups confectioner’s sugar3 tablespoons pure maple syrup
1 tablespoon dark corn syrup or Karo
1/2 tablespoon water
1/4 teaspoon ground cinnamon
1/4 teaspoon maple flavoring (optional)
                                  
Directions:

1. Preheat oven to 350 º F (177 º C).

2. In a medium mixing bowl, whisk together the flour, baking powder, and cinnamon.  In a small separate bowl, whisk the egg.  Set both aside.

3. In a small saucepan over medium-low heat, combine the apple cider, sugar and yogurt or butter, stirring continuously until yogurt or butter has just melted.  Remove from heat, let cool for 2 minutes, and stir in the apple cider vinegar, vanilla, and whisked egg. Slowly pour the wet ingredients into the dry; stir well with a whisker until combined and almost no lumps are visible.

4. Using a tablespoon or a cookie scooper, spoon/scoop batter into a cooking sprayed donut pan (3/4 full).  Bake in the oven for 12-14 minutes (standard-size baked donuts) or for 6-7 minutes (mini baked donuts), or until light brown and cooked through. Let cool for 2-3 minutes on a rack.  Then, remove baked donuts from pan and place them directly on a rack to cool completely before dipping into glaze.

5. For the Maple Glaze: Whisk everything together in a small bowl until smooth.  Set rack of donuts over a baking sheet lined with parchment paper.  Dip the top of the baked donuts into the maple glaze, turning to coat well.  Let baked donuts rest on rack until glaze sets.

 

Note:  Apple Cider Baked Donuts recipe adapted from We Heart Vegan,  and Maple Glaze adapted from Under The High Chair.

http://www.frombraziltoyou.org/apple-cider-baked-donuts-maple-glaze/

Classic Spritz Cookies

 

Ingredients

• 3 1/2 cups unbleached flour
• 1 teaspoon baking powder
• 1 1/2 cups unsalted butter softened
• 1 cup granulated sugar
• 1 egg
• 2 tablespoons Fat Free milk
• 1 teaspoon clear vanilla extract
• 1/2 teaspoon no-color almond extract
        

Makes

7-8 dozen cookies.

Tools

• Cookie Press 

Instructions:

Step 1

Preheat oven to 350ºF.

Step 2

In bowl, combine flour and baking powder. In large bowl, beat butter and sugar with electric mixer until light and fluffy. Add egg, milk, vanilla and almond extract; mix well. Gradually add  flour mixture to butter  mixture; beat until combined. Do not chill. Fill cookie press with dough and with desired disks, press cookies onto ungreased cookie sheet.

Step 3

Bake 10-12 minutes or until edges are light golden brown. Cool 2 minutes on cookie sheet on cooling rack. Remove from sheet; cool completely.

http://www.wilton.com/recipe/Classic-Spritz-Cookies

Love and Logic Day #20

Day 20

We want kids THINKING about and owning their problems. Often, it's a matter of ASKING them what they are going to do about it instead of TELLING them.

Stay classy... when there is a conflict. That way, your kids will see how to stay classy when there is a conflict.

"If you don't clean up, I'm not taking you." can become:
"I'll take you as soon as you clean up."

Celebrate you kids' successes - big and small.

We know that giving kids everything they want is bad for them.

Expecting kids to work & earn things they desire sends messages that they are capable and will enhance self-concept.

"We could change the world if we all intentionally modeled for our children the constant value of helping others."
~ Unknown

Too much rescuing sends messages that say, "You are fragile and need to be rescued."

"Today, my kids are going to help. They will contribute even if they complain at 1st and even if they don't do things exactly like I do."

"I tend to do extra things for people who treat me with respect."

Some of the most powerful messages in the world have little to do with the actual words spoken.